What are Values in your THRIVE life?
Values are beliefs that you feel are important in the way you live your life, in the way you work and in the way you act. When your beliefs match up with your actions, your life flows, you feel grounded and abundance comes. When there is a gap, most will describe that they feel “lost” or their lives feel very “chaotic.”
Values in our THRIVE life serve many important purposes. Values help us to set goals by establishing our priorities in our life. If my top 5 values are God, Spouse, Children, Health and Service, then my goals will be born from these Values. My day will reflect actions that support these priorities. Our Values help serve as a gauge for our life at any given moment in time. How do we feel about our life? Are we fulfilled? Are we doing what makes us happy? Am I grounded? Am I feeling scattered or overwhelmed? An answer of yes or no to these questions and many more will show you if you have strayed from your value system. A good example is when we feel overwhelmed. Usually, when we feel overwhelmed, if we look at our activities and compare them to our Values, there’s a gap. The actions we are doing are not in full support of our Values. Usually, someone else’s Values have snuck in! By setting our goals (driven by our Values) and implementing the action steps for supporting those goals, our Values serve as directions for our daily living. If we know our Values and live by them then our behaviors and actions will lead us towards choices which lead to a more fulfilling life.
In our society today, we have become easily distracted human beings. It’s easy for us to fall into the trap of living by different Values daily if we don’t have them clearly defined. Example: you say that health is a Value (therefore a priority) but yet your nutrition and your exercise is a day by day event. You do your best to “fit it in” but with no great focus or determination.
Our time is so important and honestly, time is of the essence which makes needing clearly defined Values so important. We can’t get yesterday back so why not live each day by a way that serves us best?
One of my favorites about Values, is that they tell us A LOT about ourselves. A person who has Peace in their top 5 Values and Success in their bottom 5 Values is very different from a person who has Success in their top 5 Values and Peace in their bottom 5 Values. It shows YOU what’s important to you. What is important to me may be very different from what is important to you. And that is OK! Think about knowing this in your own relationships? If you are in a relationship now, do you both have similar Values or are they completely different? Do you know? Do you know your children’s Values? Maybe knowing their Values could explain their actions and their daily behaviors.
In closing, our Values change! And that’s ok. I go through my own Values assessment every 3 months and ask everyone in my family to do the same!